Empowering young people to build healthy relationships - By Tina Pokuaah
Relationships play a key part in young people’s wellbeing. From
birth they are important to their development, mental health and feelings of belonging.
They can be inherently positive; contributing to their happiness, confidence,
health and even advancing their life aspirations. Therefore, being intentional
about teaching young people about healthy relationships in their homes and in
schools shouldn’t be taken lightly. The below 5 tips are not an exhaustive
list, but are a good starting point to having honest and open conversations,
that they can utilise in both their romantic relationships and friendships
groups too.
1. Help them define what a healthy
relationship means to them
Healthy relationships don’t look the same for everyone since
we all have different needs, which can also change throughout different life
stages. So, with this in mind, encourage them to note down what the current
important internal characteristics are to them.
2. Empower them to be confident in
communicating their needs
Being honest about their expectations and intentions for
their relationship is important. Are they looking to cultivate a relationship
with someone with similar interests and hobbies? Or have a causal relationship?
Whichever way, it’s advisable for them to be completely transparent with the
person in question right from the beginning. Once they’ve established their
intentions, they both should start being comfortable voicing their thoughts,
concerns, and sharing perspectives without fear of judgement.
3.
Teach
them to understand the power of their intuition
Listening to their internal thoughts and feelings they have
can save them a lot of heartache and trauma. Before they fully commit themselves
to the relationship, encourage them to take the time to check in with themselves.
To analyse the situation and identify what might be early warning signs of an
unhealthy relationship, and to always pay attention to how their energy
increases or decreases when they are around certain people. For example, do they
find themselves feeling uneasy, anxious or drained?
4. Encourage them to recognise the importance
of setting boundaries
Boundaries are the imaginary lines we draw around ourselves
to maintain balance and protect our bodies, minds, emotions, and time from the behaviour
or demands of others. It’s important for them to understand that setting
boundaries is a healthy and respectful way to treat themselves and others.
Evidently, relationships are not always ‘butterflies and walks in the park’,
and that’s okay. However, what is not OK is normalising intentional abuse,
never-ending pain and suffering all for the sake of keeping a relationship
together.
5. Promote and practice equality
Last but not least, a healthy relationship is a balanced and
reciprocal one in which both parties give and receive. This involves a positive
exchange of all the good things like support, affection, trust and respect. If they
are giving more than they receive - or vice versa - it’s important for them to
question that maybe that person doesn’t have their best interest at heart.
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